Forgiveness
Forgiveness can be a difficult thing to do; Especially when you don’t know how to do it. I recall a time in my life when I was so hurt, and so broken. The person who hurt me was sincerely sorry, and all they wanted and needed from me, was for me to forgive them. I really wanted to forgive, but I struggled with forgiving, because every time I thought about what the person had done, it was like re-living it all over again.
I remember praying and asking God to help me forgive. I also fasted, in an effort to muster up the strength to forgive. I thought I had tried EVERYTHING to forgive, but still could not forgive the person.
After going through this for months, and even reaching a point of hopelessness, of feeling as if it was never going to be possible for me to ever forgive, God finally revealed to me how to let go of the pain and forgive the person.
My spiritual mom said, “JUST DO IT!”
I thought to myself, “Huh, Just Do It? But, it’s not that easy. I’ve tried and tried everything, and it’s just not working.”
I told her how I had prayed and prayed, and even fasted, but nothing worked! Then she expressed to me that forgiveness was simply a CHOICE! You CHOOSE to forgive a person. It’s not anything that magically happens, or POOF, now suddenly you’re able to forgive. All you have to do is make a simple choice to forgive the person of their transgression. You release the offense, as if it never happened. Just as God casts our sins as far as the East is from the West…and the East and the West never meet, but they are complete opposite directions. So we have to cast the transgression in the opposite direction, never to return again!
So in my situation, I made the choice to forgive. I did it, just like she said! It was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. Then through my choice to forgive, God made it like it had never happened. The good that came out of the choice to forgive was unbelievable. God restored the relationship and made things so good, I couldn’t even remember the times when it was bad or the mistake that had hurt me so. God brought healing through my forgiveness.
We all desire and want grace and forgiveness when we make mistakes, but we’re so quick to condemn and hold grudges when someone wrongs us. We want to hold others to a standard, that we don’t even live up to ourselves. We want God and others to forgive us, but we take our time in forgiving, or, we just don’t forgive at all.
We MUST give grace to each other and we MUST walk in forgiveness! God’s love holds no account of a suffered wrong and it endures ALL things. Are you walking in God’s love, or are you acting as Satan, and condemning those around you? Satan wants to keep us in bondage to our sins and our past mistakes, but God delivers us from our sins and forgives us.
That’s what we’re doing, when we don’t forgive. We’re keeping our loved ones in bondage to their mistakes. Are you being like God in the lives of your family and friends, or are you being like Satan and condemning them for their wrongs?
Let’s be like God and not like Satan…God’s love restores, reconciles, and heals. Allow God to bring the healing, reconciliation, and restoration through you…in the Name of Jesus!
© Promise Land International Ministries 2026
